You are not alone and you matter!

There are two innate human needs that reside deeply in every heart. They can be expressed in the form of the following two questions: “Am I alone?” and “Do I matter?” These unspoken questions haunt us in the quiet dark of night. This is because we’re both relational beings and we seek significance. We look for love, to belong, and we want our lives to count for something. 

And I would proffer that not only is this so because of how God made us but also that He answers both of these felt needs at the deepest heart level.

You are never alone

When we Christian talk about God as a Father, Son, and Spirit, we’re saying there has never been a time when God was alone. Within this mysterious Godhead is the essence of relationship. And, contrary to popular thought, God does not do abandonment. Jesus expresses this beautifully in John:

28 Then Jesus said to them, “When you lift up the Son of Man, then you will know that I am He, and that I do nothing of Myself; but as My Father taught Me, I speak these things. 29 And He who sent Me is with Me. The Father has not left Me alone, for I always do those things that please Him.” (John 8:28-29 *)

32 Indeed the hour is coming, yes, has now come, that you will be scattered, each to his own, and will leave Me alone. And yet I am not alone, because the Father is with Me. (John 16:32 *)

Contrary to what you might’ve been taught, while Jesus said we would abandon Him on the cross, His Father would never abandon Him. In fact, Paul insists that God was in Christ reconciling the world to Himself (2 Cor.5:19).

Jesus proceeded from the Father from eternity. And His desire is that we would be with Him forever.

24 “Father, I desire that they also whom You gave Me may be with Me where I am, that they may behold My glory which You have given Me;for You loved Me before the foundation of the world. (John 17:24)

Furthermore, God emphatically states that He will never leave us in the future.

…for He [God] Himself has said, I will not in any way fail you nor give you up nor leave you without support. [I will] not, [I will] not, [I will] not in any degree leave you helpless nor forsake nor let [you] down (relax My hold on you)! [Assuredly not!] (Heb.13:5b AMP *)

So, while you may feel like you’re alone at times, it’s an illusion. You are never alone nor are you ever without God’s support.

You matter!

Significance has to do with worth. If the value of something or someone is what one is willing to pay, then what value did God place on you? He answers this question in two passages. The first one is obvious, the second one often gets missed. Here’s the first one.

16 For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son, that whoever believes in Him should not perish but have everlasting life. (John 3:16 *)

The first question here is, how much value did Jesus have to the Father? You might say, infinite. But, then, if He gave Jesus for you, how much value do you have to Him?

Here’s the second passage. It’s actually a two-part parable. And this is where we need to look more closely to catch what Jesus is saying.

44 “Again, the kingdom of heaven is like treasure hidden in a field, which a man found and hid; and for joy over it he goes and sells all that he has and buys that field.

45 “Again, the kingdom of heaven is like a merchant seeking beautiful pearls,46 who, when he had found one pearl of great price, went and sold all that he had and bought it. (Matt.13:44-46 *)

The first part is easy. The Kingdom of heaven is the treasure in the field. We are the ones who find it and “buy” the field. But who is the “merchant” in the second part? The kingdom of heaven is the merchant. So, who is seeking who in verses 45-46? Heaven is searching for the “pearl of great price.” Who is this pearl? YOU ARE! You, precious sought out one, are the pearl of great price in God’s estimation, for He gave ALL He had, the Son of His infinite love, for you. You matter that much!

So, there is no such thing as being alone and there is no human being (“world”) that does not have infinite value to God. Beloved of God, He is searching you out. Will you be found of Him?

* New King James Bible translation unless otherwise noted. All emphasis added.

About Mel Wild

God's favorite (and so are you), a son and a father, happily married to the same beautiful woman for 41 years. We have three incredible adult children. My passion is pursuing the Father's heart in Christ and giving it away to others. My favorite pastime is being iconoclastic and trailblazing the depths of God's grace. I'm also senior pastor of Cornerstone Church in Wisconsin.
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13 Responses to You are not alone and you matter!

  1. A very beautiful piece, Mel, full of Christian hope. I’m glad that you write posts like this that are very accessible, as well as the heavier theology stuff. It’s something I need to do more of on Perfect Chaos! Have a blessed week 🙂

    • Mel Wild says:

      Thanks Steven. This particular writing is what I prefer to do. I do the other theological stuff to help believers understand the foundation their faith is based in. Oftentimes, people are just taught what to believe instead of why it’s reasonable to believe it. 🙂

  2. Beautiful Mel! This is the very essence of the gospel and sadly the one piece that is so often missing in people’s minds and hearts. The Father and the Son are one, God is not this cosmic child abuser, pouring His wrath out on His own son all because He is mad at us. Jesus is never alone, not even on the cross, never separated from the Father, although He may sense our own separation, He may experience the feelings on our behalf? I can only speculate about that part, but many people have taken note of the fact that when Jesus says, “Father, why have you forsaken me,” He is actually prophetically speaking Psalm 22. The end of that Psalm does say, “They will proclaim his righteousness, declaring to a people yet unborn: He has done it!”

    Jesus made a tremendous investment in us. We have huge worth and value to Him, incredible significance. We matter to Him. He loves us, He bought us at a great price. He is not mad at us.

    I feel silly to even write such things, but this theme of separation is such a dominant and common part of our own flawed thinking, that I bump into it constantly. It’s a lie I’d so love to see put to rest.

    • Mel Wild says:

      “I feel silly to even write such things, but this theme of separation is such a dominant and common part of our own flawed thinking, that I bump into it constantly. It’s a lie I’d so love to see put to rest.”

      Amen and amen! This popular (Western) doctrine of separation is at the heart of our orphan-hearted thinking–Adam hiding in the bushes while God seeks intimate fellowship with Him in the Garden. “No, Moses, you talk to Him!” Of course, if this popular notion were true, who would want to be intimate with the ultimate Child abuser! No wonder so many Christians keep their distance. I also sincerely hope this mindset changes because it’s convoluted and ugly for the reasons you mentioned. But it may take a generation or two before enough people realize that. It is slowly changing. We’re finding out that He truly is a “Good Good Father!” 🙂

  3. ColorStorm says:

    I am so laughing. The scriptures cited, especially John 3, have long been referred to by unbelievers to justify the alleged ‘evil’ of God.

    ‘Men’s deeds were evil’ is somehow God’s fault. People forget that the whole conversation was initiated by a learned but shy Jew…. who came to the Lord under the cover of night.

    But you are a favorite punching bag of the AtheistsRus team, that’s why I’m chuckling; it is God that ultimately they despise, not you or I.

    You could post on dandelions and they would cite you delusional.

    So yes, you are not alone in this either. 🙂

    • Mel Wild says:

      The scriptures cited, especially John 3, have long been referred to by unbelievers to justify the alleged ‘evil’ of God.

      It just shows that the haters are gonna hate. The irony you point out reminds me of Jesus going around healing people, restoring dead children to their grieving parents, touching lepers, loving the marginalized. The crowd rejoiced and the Pharisees plotted how they were going to trick Jesus and kill Him. Quite a strange reaction to pure love!

      But you are a favorite punching bag of the AtheistsRus team, that’s why I’m chuckling; it is God that ultimately they despise, not you or I.

      I’m glad we can give these angry ex’es’ lives meaning and purpose. 🙂

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    So y’all should go read Mel’s post. It’s just beautiful and it gets to the heart of the matter.

  5. Excellent word. You did a mighty fine job expressing this truth.

  6. Thank you so much for this piece… I am not alone

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