There are two innate human needs that reside deeply in every heart. They can be expressed in the form of the following two questions: “Am I alone?” and “Do I matter?” These unspoken questions haunt us in the quiet dark of night. This is because we’re both relational beings and we seek significance. We look for love, to belong, and we want our lives to count for something.
And I would proffer that not only is this so because of how God made us but also that He answers both of these felt needs at the deepest heart level.
You are never alone
When we Christian talk about God as a Father, Son, and Spirit, we’re saying there has never been a time when God was alone. Within this mysterious Godhead is the essence of relationship. And, contrary to popular thought, God does not do abandonment. Jesus expresses this beautifully in John:
28 Then Jesus said to them, “When you lift up the Son of Man, then you will know that I am He, and that I do nothing of Myself; but as My Father taught Me, I speak these things. 29 And He who sent Me is with Me. The Father has not left Me alone, for I always do those things that please Him.” (John 8:28-29 *)
32 Indeed the hour is coming, yes, has now come, that you will be scattered, each to his own, and will leave Me alone. And yet I am not alone, because the Father is with Me. (John 16:32 *)
Contrary to what you might’ve been taught, while Jesus said we would abandon Him on the cross, His Father would never abandon Him. In fact, Paul insists that God was in Christ reconciling the world to Himself (2 Cor.5:19).
Jesus proceeded from the Father from eternity. And His desire is that we would be with Him forever.
24 “Father, I desire that they also whom You gave Me may be with Me where I am, that they may behold My glory which You have given Me;for You loved Me before the foundation of the world. (John 17:24)
Furthermore, God emphatically states that He will never leave us in the future.
…for He [God] Himself has said, I will not in any way fail you nor give you up nor leave you without support. [I will] not, [I will] not, [I will] not in any degree leave you helpless nor forsake nor let [you] down (relax My hold on you)! [Assuredly not!] (Heb.13:5b AMP *)
So, while you may feel like you’re alone at times, it’s an illusion. You are never alone nor are you ever without God’s support.
Significance has to do with worth. If the value of something or someone is what one is willing to pay, then what value did God place on you? He answers this question in two passages. The first one is obvious, the second one often gets missed. Here’s the first one.
16 For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son, that whoever believes in Him should not perish but have everlasting life. (John 3:16 *)
The first question here is, how much value did Jesus have to the Father? You might say, infinite. But, then, if He gave Jesus for you, how much value do you have to Him?
Here’s the second passage. It’s actually a two-part parable. And this is where we need to look more closely to catch what Jesus is saying.
44 “Again, the kingdom of heaven is like treasure hidden in a field, which a man found and hid; and for joy over it he goes and sells all that he has and buys that field.
45 “Again, the kingdom of heaven is like a merchant seeking beautiful pearls,46 who, when he had found one pearl of great price, went and sold all that he had and bought it. (Matt.13:44-46 *)
The first part is easy. The Kingdom of heaven is the treasure in the field. We are the ones who find it and “buy” the field. But who is the “merchant” in the second part? The kingdom of heaven is the merchant. So, who is seeking who in verses 45-46? Heaven is searching for the “pearl of great price.” Who is this pearl? YOU ARE! You, precious sought out one, are the pearl of great price in God’s estimation, for He gave ALL He had, the Son of His infinite love, for you. You matter that much!
So, there is no such thing as being alone and there is no human being (“world”) that does not have infinite value to God. Beloved of God, He is searching you out. Will you be found of Him?