Sonshift Study – Chapter Five

This is the sixth week of our discussion on my book, Sonshift: Everything Changes in the Father’s Embrace. Today, we’ll be looking at chapter five titled, “Love Shift.”

Each Monday, I give a brief overview of a chapter from my book, followed by a series of questions. I invite you to respond to some or all of these questions, or give additional comments on the chapter that my questions don’t address.  My only rules are that you’ve actually read the chapter and that your answers are brief.  Okay, off we go!

Chapter Five: Love Shift

We’re now right in the middle of the book about the Father’s love, so it’s appropriate that this chapter is about love! Or, should I say…love shift. One of the premises of the book is that God is kissing His Bride, Sleeping Beauty, awake with true love’s kiss. Here’s a good summation of what Love Shift is about:

“Therefore, the Love Shift we are to make is going from knowing that we’re supposed to love God to knowing we are loved by Him. It’s living in an awareness of the Father’s affections and simply reciprocating His love.” (p. 116, Kindle loc. 1893)

Discussion Questions:

  1. The author talks about letting God’s perception of us occupy our affections. How might this transform our heart?
  2. Why do you think it’s important to know how much God loves and value you?
  3. Why is it important for us to know that God’s love has no conditions?
  4. Why is having free will required for love? What risk does God take in giving us free will?
  5. The author says that in the parables of the treasure and the pearl of great price (Matt.13:44-46), God is our treasure and we are His pearl of great price. What does this say about the nature of our relationship? Why is this important to our life in Christ?

If these questions didn’t address something you think is important, please add it in your comments. If you would like to make any comments offline, please email me at  Thank you!

Now, it’s your turn!


About Mel Wild

God's favorite (and so are you), a son and a father, happily married to the same beautiful woman for 41 years. We have three incredible adult children. My passion is pursuing the Father's heart in Christ and giving it away to others. My favorite pastime is being iconoclastic and trailblazing the depths of God's grace. I'm also senior pastor of Cornerstone Church in Wisconsin.
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4 Responses to Sonshift Study – Chapter Five

  1. 1. When we see ourselves as God sees us, whole and unconditionally loveable, we are able to love ourselves that way too. That, then, enables us to love with His love (the Spirit’s love) – to love Him with all our heart, soul, mind and strength, and to also love our neighbors as ourselves.
    2. If we under- or devalue ourselves, how can we ever value others the way He values us and them?
    3. We as humans place conditions on love, knowingly or unknowingly. The paradigm shift is when we finally accept God’s love, we begin to understand it has no strings at all – it has nothing to do with our performance and everything to do with who we are at any given moment.
    4. Free will is required because it takes us out of the slave mindset and heartset, and into the adopted child mindset and heartset. The risk is, we can refuse Him.
    5. The relationship we have with God is interdependent, and in this kind of relationship, both value the other over all else. God obviously values us else He would not have given us His Son. The Father and Son value us else they would not have placed the Spirit inside us to give us wisdom, to remind us of all Jesus said, to pray for us and guide us.
    Mel: re: #3 – I think a question about the difference between conditional and unconditional love might be appropriate here. Unconditional love is such a difficult concept, and I think it deserves more than this one question.

    • Mel Wild says:

      Thanks, Susan. Great answers, as usual! And thanks for the suggestion on #3. I will think about that one and make adjustments with the group I’m going to be working with at our church. That’s very helpful. Blessings.

  2. dawnlizjones says:

    1. How God sees me (as opposed to how I see myself, or how others may see me, or how I THINK others may see me) is the true basis of self-esteem, as well as authentic humility. Also this quote: “…whose perception is guiding your affections? Tune your heart to His heart. Believe what He says about you. Don’t accept anything else. This is true repentance,…” Tying this perception to repentance is a new concept for me. Very significant.
    2. To begin with, to properly relate to my Father. Only then can I properly relate to the rest of His creation.
    3. As in the last chapter, this is a trust issue. And there can be no true intimacy without trust.
    4. Love is a choice, thus the need for free will; in giving us free will, God risked the pain of losing us through our choice of rejection.
    5. God is our treasure and we are His pearl of great price. What does this say about the nature of our relationship? Why is this important to our life in Christ? The relationship is meant to be reciprocal; since this is the way God designed it, to approach it any other way would be painful for Him.

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